How to deal with short term memory loss?
Real-life stories can be a powerful source of inspiration. This week’s blog features how Rick and I handle his short term memory loss. Through trial and error, we have found some ways to decrease the frustration that we both feel with the challenge of memory loss.
Problems with memory and thinking are common post stroke. Memory loss is most common immediately post stroke and like most stroke symptoms, recovery occurs within the first few days to weeks. Unfortunately, for many the loss of short term memory is long lasting. What we found is that it is not 100% loss of memory but forgetfulness of what has been said or recollection of current events.
Here is real life:
I placed a large calendar where he leaves all of his stuff and looks at each morning. All activities are on the calendar. If he is out with friends, I immediately ask upon return, “Any new dates to place on the calendar?” Timing is critical as he may forget later . It is also helpful if friends text you with plans as well.
Even with the calendar, issues can happen…
For the last 2 years celebrating my birthday has been limited as Rick was not able to plan or shop but this year he made an effort. I love live theater and my girlfriends and I had planned to see “Tina”. I spoke frequently about how excited I was to see the play and had placed it on the calendar.
The morning of my birthday, I came downstairs to flowers and a card. I was thrilled that he remembered. Once I opened the card and read the gift, I had to quickly decide how to handle. Rick had gotten us tickets to see “Tina”
I shared that I already had tickets to see the show with the girls but these were much better seats and I was excited to go with him. He shared that he remembered how I wanted to see the show and that I frequently spoke about it. He was so happy that he got me a gift all alone and something I would want.
I missed going with the girls but the gift of him remembering and thinking of something special was one of the best gifts. We had a great time at “Tina” That day, I learned what the true meaning of the saying is “It’s the thought that counts”
Additional tips…
Have a routine by doing routine tasks at regular times during the day
Break down tasks into simple steps. Do not overload with too many task at once (1-2 at a time)
Make a habit of placing things in the same location. I am terrible at moving things so this has been a challenge
To do list. Share what needs to be done immediately.
Driving directions are hard to remember. Utilize a GPS system
Cherish when they do remember and remember they are more frustrated with the memory loss.